Chapter III: let's get married
In chapter II I talked about the traditional dress code in the NORTH part of yemen which by the way apply to about 75% of the north some parts of the norht don't wear a dagger.
maybe most of you thought that I would write more about what's the dress code in the south but I'll leave that for another day.
Today I'm going to talk about how people get married, or to be exact how to propose.
Let's get it started:
Most of the world have the (European –American) way to propose to a woman, well you can do that here but you still have to do it the right way(if want to do something do it right).
What I'm going to speak about here maybe apply to 80% of the Arab world in general with maybe a little difference from one country to another.
So if you loved some girl and she loved you and you want to get married there are some steps you must do first.
First step: you can propose to the girl family directly or you can try the second approach which means that you have to send someone who knows the girl family (a friend of the family and it would be better if he/she was a good friend of the family) and tell them that you want to propose for there daughter and see what they have to say.
Second step: if you proposed directly or they agreed to meet you after step one – part two then you and the girl father or who is considered her legal guardian will schedule a day when you come with some of your family members and set with him and some of his family members (that’s of course if the girl wanted to marry YOU!!) and you talk about the details of the wedding and who will pay for what and so on.
Step three: get ready for the wedding.
Step four: get married.
Step five: now you have her have a great life.
I know this was short but I'm kind of busy these days I'll try to write more stuff in the near future.
3 comments:
I know this traditional way of pre-arranging or/and having to ask for consent ect. - what sometimes startles me is the fact that these marriages do hold longer and are much more solid that the ones here in the West where people take and as well have ALL the freedoms you can even think of! I think it tells a rather clear story ...
Thanks so much for sharing!
AsSalaamu Alaikum,
Brother, I enjoyed your post, however I have a question. I'm an American Muslim and looking to marry a Yemeni woman--the Yemeni women who have come to the States have left a great impression (the one's that kept up their Islam and culture) on American Muslims. So I plan to come to Yemen to study arabic and find a wife. So how do I do find a wife? I know this sounds crazy, but if you knew/experienced American culture you would understand!
Wa'Alaikum Salaam
Hello brother thank you for your comment.
Well 1st of all you need to know people, when you come here you’ll meet people and make friends and so on, then thorough them you can ask them if they know any good families who wants to marry there daughter and so on.
Some times you can ask through the Imams of mosques because Imams know a lot of family.
Tell you the truth I’m not married my self either, so I’m not the big expert on these kinda things.
If you need anything else I try my best to help you just drop me an e-mail.
Fe Aman Allah
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