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:: They say...

They say that girls who grow up with out a daddy ( divorced parents, death or travel ) will always be looking for approval from males and that would eventually get her into so much trouble and make her disadvantaged!
They say that girls who grow up with out a mommy ( divorced parents, death or travel ) will loose her soft side...she'll be boyish and unstable as she will be loosing a chunk of her femininity and she'll be weirdly attached to her daddy the thing that will make her fail to get into a healthy relationship!
They say that boys who grow up with out a dad (divorced parents, death or travel ) will always be their mama's boys and lack being macho which will make them  weak weeny men and will eventually be driven by freak strong willed women!
They say that boys who grow up without a mom ( divorced parents, death or travel ) will always be harsh, rude and rough...they'll be cold hearted snakes men elakher ya3ni!
 
Now, if you have the urge to ask me who are THEY who said so....please don't because you know who!
 
If that isn't confusing i sure don't have a freakin' idea what is!!
 
Whether it's society's big mouth or scientists or any creep out there who decided to complicate humanity more than it is already...I don't really care and i really think that Arab countries should start to think more about how to raise their class instead of repeating stereotype words like parrots without having any idea how destructive such declarations of generalized mambo jumbo crap can do to the struggling people who already have a hard time comprehending the mess they are in.
 
I know every family has it's own story and i know that every story throws its shadow over characters...I know that living anything but what's normal and by the book affects children and draws what kind of people they'll be.
Saying that now needs a clarification as knowing all the above doesn't mean that it will nessecerly happen to people...i mean, not all boys raised by a single mother become fags and not all girls raised with no daddy become bitchs...
 
What I'm positive about is...boys who are raised by a single mom need to compensate not having a dad by having a grand pa or a good teacher or an understating coach or even a great mom who can give both parenting meanings...it won't be perfect but it won't make him a weirdo....he doesn't have too...it's not a rule that applies on similar circumstances..
 
The greatest thing about man kind is that the individualism is amazingly unique and that what makes every life experience is a treasure.
 
We laugh ..we cry ... we have good chances and we have bad ones and we should try to make the best out of what we get...and pain might draw a special artistic line about you as well as joyous circumstances...
 
The best man ever created was an orphan who lost both his parents in a very young age...Prophet Mohammed (PBUH)...
 
I don't care what they say...I'll make it the best way i know how...Allah almusta3an. 

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On December, 21, 2007 9:29 PM , Fadi K
from Jordan said:

Hi ..

Great post!

You're right , it ain't necessarily so. Kids who live without a parent or without one at least they grow up to be normal and like ordinary kids depending on their home environment...

Kol 3am wa antum bekheir


On December, 22, 2007 12:33 AM , thecaller
from Egypt said:

Thanks fadi..
It's generalizations that drives me mad...people treat people with theories that belong in labs and equations..not life.

Wenta bkheir


On December, 23, 2007 11:38 AM , ABDULLAH said:

Although it may have some truth to it, but if the single parent does his or her best for their children, then it will suffice. I have experienced that first hand and I am proud of the results although its not perfect but its far better than what both parents could have done in many cases.

I agree with you Um Alhassan, people should not generalize, but taht is their way of discouraging divorces. But divorces are far better than living in Hell with an unfit spouse.
Good Day!


On December, 23, 2007 11:43 AM , thecaller
from Egypt said:

Can't agree more..
Thanks for sharing abdullah


On December, 23, 2007 8:13 PM , Mohamed ElGohary
from Egypt said:

Blame the @)($)(@#*%)#$2 Arabic and Egyptian media, and accordingly who blindly believe in them.

Next time charge your battery well :P.


On December, 23, 2007 8:14 PM , creez1181
from Jordan said:

you are right .. i think that a person can be effected from the loss of either parent but that does not mean that we draw lines to them and tell them previously what their lifes would be ... its more like reading the side effects of the medicone b4 taking it and forget ur sickness and start getting the side effects ... Sometimes a good single mom or dad can raise beautiful children because they know the meaning of the loss of the other half and as you said صلى الله عليه و سلم is a perfect proof ...

Salam ya amar*


On December, 25, 2007 9:23 AM , thecaller
from Egypt said:

yeah goog...batteries :D
sorry about that buddy


On December, 25, 2007 9:24 AM , thecaller
from Egypt said:

Mais*
seriously now...u gotta return to writing.
I miss my doeses ya benty




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